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Discussion started on  09/25/2008 04:30:09 PM  by  abdurrahimk
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  • Date: 09/25/2008 04:30:09 PM
  • Total Posts: 2384 Msg 27987.1
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Is it OK for married people to flirt?

If Yes, why?

 If No, Why Not?

 Personally,in my opinion, I think they should not. 

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  • Date: 09/25/2008 05:27:31 PM
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in Reply To : Is it OK for married people to flirt? If Yes, why? If No, Why Not? Personally,in my opinion, I think they should not.

As long as it's light and funny, there's nothing wrong with flirting IMHO.  But then, I'm a natural-born flirt, so I'm biased.  LOL.  One can flirt simply to make another person's day, acknowledge their attractiveness, or have a bit of lighthearted fun during work hours.  Nothing serious, of course.  People take everything so darn seriously these days!

 

Being married doesn't equate to being neutered or dead.  I personally think that a lot of marriages end up in a state of detente because of unrealistic expectations such as your spouse wearing blinders to the opposite gender.  It's unnatural.  As long as they aren't openly gaping or flirting with someone in your presence, why even sweat it?

  • Date: 09/26/2008 07:02:16 AM
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I think we all are natural flirts, men and women, but especially women. However, a married person has a deeper committment to a personal relationship with another that prohibits behavior which tends to be, or can be interpreted to be, disrespectful towards that committed relationship by the party committed to. Than one needs to also keep in mind that though we may not be responsible for someone  else's interpretation of our  playful flirtations, we must have consideraration for that person's feelings, however wrong they may be. Some people are more inclined to seriousness than others. What you may consider playful flirtation, others might consider the real thing. Personally, I dont think that playing with someone's feelings is a good thing, and in the long run can cause animosity between four persons, the one flirting, the one being flirted with and the spouses of both parties. I think that LOOKING and FLIRTING are separate entities, and although it may be okay to look, it is not perfectly ok to actively engage in flirtatious looks or conversations. However, that is just my opinion.
Edited by abdurrahimk on September 26, 2008 07:06:12 AM
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  • Date: 09/26/2008 09:24:55 AM
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in Reply To : Is it OK for married people to flirt? If Yes, why? If No, Why Not? Personally,in my opinion, I think they should not.

I am a natural flirt.  At least that is what most of my friends say.  So my opinion may be a tad bit one-sided. 

I think it is okay to flirt a little.  A smile here or there.  However, the lines between what is acceptable and what is not can be so easily crossed - that at times its best to not even approach them if you are not aware of what you are doing.  Also there is the point that the person you are flirting with actually calls your bluff - then what?  I've been caught in both those situations and at best - its difficult to escape the fallout.  So even though I am a natural flirt - when married I really tried not to.  I was not always successful.

Namaste

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- Grace Jones

  • Date: 09/26/2008 09:53:00 AM
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in Reply To : As long as it's light and funny, there's nothing wrong with flirting IMHO. But then, I'm a natural-born flirt, so I'm biased. LOL. One can flirt simply to make another person's day, acknowledge their attractiveness, or have a bit of lighthearted...

As long as it's light and funny, there's nothing wrong with flirting IMHO.  But then, I'm a natural-born flirt, so I'm biased.  LOL.  One can flirt simply to make another person's day, acknowledge their attractiveness, or have a bit of lighthearted fun

I agree.  I'm not married, but I'm in a committed relationship, and I see nothing wrong.  It's just fun.

...Nothing serious, of course.  People take everything so darn seriously these days!

Amen!

  • Date: 09/26/2008 12:56:17 PM
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in Reply To : Is it OK for married people to flirt? If Yes, why? If No, Why Not? Personally,in my opinion, I think they should not.
They do it all the time.
  • Date: 09/26/2008 12:58:01 PM
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in Reply To : In my opinion usually when one flirts it is because they have some type of interest in that person, so I will have to say no. Most of the time flirting will eventually lead up to one thing especially when already involved or married.
The person doing the flirting expects that.
  • Date: 09/26/2008 01:46:59 PM
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I can see where flirting can lead to other things. But if this is the case this is not flirting. This is someone with a hidden agenda, a plan or unhappy in their marriage. I love to flirt and I am married I have been with my husband for 20 year and have only been with him. At the end of the day this is the man I choose to spend my life with. But I flirt because, as a married women you like to know that you are still appealling to other men.kissing

Edited by kawgirl600 on September 26, 2008 01:48:38 PM
Edited by kawgirl600 on September 26, 2008 01:57:23 PM