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Men Opting Out of Child Support?(2032)
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This sparks a very interesting debate.
Edward R. Murrow:
Edited by xexling on March 9, 2006 01:27:08 PM
Edited by xexling on March 9, 2006 01:27:37 PM
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A (right) such as parental rights is an intrinsic entitlement, as in to have a relationship with your child. Such right or entitlement can be waved or surrendered because (you own it). But an obligation is a debt of duty, which cannot be waved or surrendered, only satisfied as long as it remains outstanding. See the problem in these matters is that adults want to assert rights that protect or absolve them from responsibility. But what they dont understand is that there is one party in the scheme of this mish mosh who ALSO HAS RIGHTS!! and thats the CHILD!!! Children have a right to be provided for by their PARENTS!!! Both of them! Thats the reason why child support exists. And considering that the child is the only innocent party in these matters, since they had NO ABILITY to make a choice in the outcome which resulted in their birth, and since THEY will be the one to suffer the most by having been brought into the issue, I believe that THEIR RIGHTS should be paramount above either parent!!! |
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I think they should be entitled to a choice. This sparks a very interesting debate.
Yeah one that has been going on for some time now over in the "ABOUT TO HIT THE FAN" thread.
How 'bout y'all OPT OUTTA this thread & join in over there? lol LJx Edited by lovejonesx on March 9, 2006 01:41:46 PM
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Yes. . . the woman can close her legs!!! But if a woman opens her legs and has a baby (these days) while abortion is still legal, it must mean that she was AGREEABLE to doing that!! It may have been an after thought after realizing that she was pregnant, but the man. . . . .not knowing (for a fact) what the woman would do in the event of a pregnancy is certainly taking a chance when he sticks his dick in her!!!. . . especially when the only FACTS he has is his desire NOT TO HAVE A BABY!!! Im trying to understand why it is that adults dont know that sex was created for the purpose of PROCREATION!!! and that is why birth control was invented!!! It is an ATTEMPT!!! at preventing the NATURAL BODY FUNCTION CALLED CONCEPTION!!! So. . .any 2 people who get together sexually with THAT KNOWLEDGE are in essence agreeing to TAKE THE CHANCE that pregnancy could occur.
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I'm not clear either but there has to be some legal way to be exempt from child support. I mean this is why bilogical parents aren't finacially responsible for their children that have been adopted. if i recall correctly, once your parental rights are terminated, you have no further obligations to that child. However you can't terminate parental rights solely for the purpose of evading your obligations - terminations have to be approved by a court, which is supposed to delve into the circumstances and not just allow folks to terminate their rights all willy nilly. And its fairly difficult to get parental rights terminated. I'm torn on the situation actually.....I can see the male point of view....but I'm not sure how to exactly make it more equitable. Cuz the only things I see are forcing a woman to be an incubator for a child she doesn't want...forcing her to have an abortion of a child she doesn't want....or forcing her to support alone a child she didn't conceive alone. But I can see how men in that situation feel. They have no say so....and once she's knocked up...he's on the hook for the next 18-22 years (depending on if his state laws allow for child support to continue through college or not). There should be some mechanism.....although I wonder if that won't do more harm then good....men could freely go about impregnating women and then just keep saying "it was unplanned and I'm declining/terminating my parental obligations"....with no recourse.
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they do have a choice. They can keep their ***s in their pants. Exactly Deelyte, I was thinking the same thing this morning when I saw this stupid mess on the news. A real man wants to take care of his child and doesn't try to get out of it by opting out of child support. Some of these men want the pleasure of having sex but not the responsibility and it is not right. |
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When biological parents surrender their parental rights they are surrendering them to a party or parties who are WILLING to take up that responsibility in their stead. And a mother who wishes to give up a child for adoption STILL needs authorization from the father, because SHE cannot give away HIS parental rights. .only her own. However, in circumstances where the mother declares that she does'nt know who the father is, or if the father never comes forward to respond to the court notice, then the child can be adopted on just the mother's approval. Now. . . that option is actually in effect for men right now! If a woman is willing to relieve the man of his parental responsibility and WILLINGLY take them upon herself all she has to do is take care of the child. There is no law that requires a woman to seek child support!!! The only time a woman is mandated to seek child support is when she is receiving welfare benefits. And that child support contribution is not given to HER it is levied and forwarded to the welfare agency to recover a portion of the funds that she receives.
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No I am not saying that. What I am saying is after the fact there is decisions to be made. They came together to have sex they should come together for a resolution. I'm saying one's feeling and or opionions shouldn't be more important than the others. If she decides her feelings are more important and justified for whatever reason then she should be willing to go it alone.
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