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Under 40: SEX IN THE TIME OF AIDS(39)
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Most everyone agrees that sex is a wonderful thing, but for people who came of age in the 80s and 90s it's also a complicated thing. If you think about the chances you take when knocking boots, it's enough to kill the mood before you even get started.
How has AIDS changed your sex life? Is it possible to get down safely without getting turned off? Or is abstinence (and a little creativity) the way for you?
--the AOL BlackVoices staff
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It's amazing how this message has been here for almost 30 days and I didnt see a reply. It doesn't seem as though we, as a black people even care enough to discuss it. It's almost as though we really don't care about the future with ourselves and/or even our children. What do you do??? I'm scared shitless out here and have been for a while now. Our black population is deteriorating one way or another. If it's not the violence it'll be the disease and we are letting it happen. If there are any support groups that we could develop in black communities, I am willing to help out. I have a 12 year old boy and soon, he will be getting extremely curious. I talk to him about sex and explain to him why he should save himself until he's much older. I hope the talkings that we have will benefit. I am so afraid because he is the future and we all must look at our children in that light. We want the best for them and their children with none of these stressful worries.........don't you all get it........ Please email me if there is anything I can do... phataboody@hotmail.com |
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I'm so thankful that I am in a commited relationship now. I feel that I have become almost homophobic after being single for the past couple of years. You see I live in the Wash DC area and there are so many men on the down low- (having sex with both male and female). I am fully aware that this is not the only way to contact AIDS, however it certainly increases your chances. When I was single I found myself drilling guys and looking for any little clue that would indicate he was on the d/l. Too feminin-RED FLAG, Too neat-RED FLAG!! If you are too skinny again another flag. It can be nerve wracking and unproductive to starting a relationship if your constantly worried about the possiblity of contacting AIDS. I feel we all have a long way to go. I can remember last summer I met this guy and he came over the next day to visit me. It got late and he asked to spend the night. He then stripped naked and made several attempts through the night to penetrate me without a condom. I kindly asked him to leave and have not heard from him since. I share this story just to say there are still alot of people taking chances and indulging in risque behavior. Please people be safe and don't judge a book but it's cover. Though I'm HIV negative...how did he know that. He never even asked.
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No sex here. Its been almost 3yrs. I think I want a hubby.lol My reasons are not because of the threat to health while that is of great concern. People for the most part just don't care........some women feel that they have to sex a man in order to have one. Some men feel that sex and how good he is at it defines his manhood. In all of this they are spreading disease amongst each other carelessly. Most people will sex each other without knowing the other sexual history. You have couples together today that do not know if either of them have HIV, and one of them could be having relations with others. Its sad. |
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aids has broght my sex life to a hault. i had a friend that i had been casually having sex with for the past 8 years. he was like my in between relationship guy. after so many aids outbreaks here, we both had ourselves tested and i decided to become celebit. with things the way they are now, i don't know if i even want to venture back into that lifestyle. i'm praying that when i get married, God will bless me with a clean, faithful husband. Maybe then i can sleep better at night. but then again, i still have 2 kids to try and steer clear of the virus. |
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actually, i just came across it while combing through threads. AIDS should be something to be careful of no matter what you age is. you have people of various ages, contracting this horrible and merciless disease. this is why we must examine ourselves and people that we allow into our lives. we need to stop looking, taking and accepting people at face value. getting cought up and being consumed by the flesh, will curse you with all that is of the flesh. thank god i am happily married________justice:D
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This is for everyone i feel as though lovemaking is a privledge from God and that it is only recognized in his eyes. Don't get me wrong because i'm not jugding anyone i too have engaged in it but have come to realize that i'm not being blessed and the way the world is today brothers and sisters we have to be careful of who we share our beds with. Alot of dieseases are going around and for the many out there that have kids such as i do i know that i want to be in the race for the long run, to watch them grow,graduate,get married and have their own families. So let's be careful and protect ourselves and oneanother.
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It's amazing how this message has been here for almost 30 days and I didnt see a reply. It doesn't seem as though we, as a black people even care enough to discuss it. It's almost as though we really don't care about the future with ourselves and/or even our children. What do you do??? Planes crash, but I still fly at least twice a week... Cars crash, but I still drive... People shoot up post offices, but I still mail letters and buy stamps... People outside the US hate us, but I still travel overseas... The fact of the matter is, in life we take risks. So even though AIDS is a fact of life, I just strap up, get my freak on, and get tested every 6 months.
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