Hello,

Shai*

Bottom line; if you love each other now, you'll love each other even more in a year so why not wait? I've never regretted taking things slow, but often regret moving quickly in a relationship. My suggestion on how to approach it is to tell her that you love her and want to be with her for a long time but you think that moving in now might spoil things in the long run because you're still getting to know each other. Make sure you keep reassuring her that you love her & tell her that you just want to build a strong foundation for your future relationship together.

If she insists then that's not a good sign, she may be insecure & feel like she needs to hurry up & 'lock you down' before you change your mind. Her insecurities would then show up in other areas of your life together & won't be pretty.

...how come lesbians don't wait to at least see their mate...

As lesbians, I must say we move VERY FAST. My partner and I have been together for four years. After dating for ONE MONTH I left my place and moved into her house that she owns. Though there were benefits, I DEFINITELY feel that we rushed things. Before making such drastic decisions, we need to think things thru, especially when there are children involved.  Hind sight being 20/20, I would have waited AT LEAST a year. We didn't give ourselves time to get to know one another. And once you move in with each other, you see alot of things that you may not have seen or agreed with had you not done so. Not everyone, but alot of us act on impulse, being emotional and all.lol  

My partner and I got our tattoos two years into the relationship. Shortly after that, I moved out and into my own place.  The space and time apart has made us stronger.  It just proves to me that you don't have to live together to have a successful relationship.  

hell i waited 4 years b4 moving in with my gyrl. known her for 17! and still woke up with a stranger. LOL honestly you never really know until u get there but, i like 2 play the odds. at least if u wait, u'll have more evidence of what u may b getting n2. at least u'll have statistics on your side as to how someone behaves. but in the first few months of a relationship, u'r lookin at a chick thru rose colour glasses. everything is gon b peachy when u'r in the honeymoon stage.

but yeah, womyn are some overly emotional creatures. and many need 2 learn how not to make life changing decisions while high on love.

...womyn are some overly emotional creatures. and many need 2 learn how not to make life changing decisions while high on love...

ENOUGH SAID!

They are definitely still in the 'courting' stage. Still should be building the foundation of their relationship. If they're walking away in the first six months, how are they going to endure the REAL problems down the road?! Nobody said it was going to be easy. That's exactly what i was thinking. it gets hard as hell. 

Girl, winter is coming. And we all know that is baby making season, NOT the time to be alone!LOL okaaaayyyy! i am so ready 2 go n2 hybernation. as soon as i finish promoting this calendar. me and my gyrl on gon get under the covers and not come out. LOL that just reminded me of this post someone wrote here a long time ago about how most people want 2 date "thick" womyn in the winter cuz they keep u warm and skinny womyn n the summer cuz they look good in swimsuits. sorry my mind is wandering.

honestly kid, if my gyrl surprised me with my name tatted on her within the first few months of our relationship, i woulda backed away from her altogether. i find that 2 b a big turn off. not the tats. but the impulsiveness over me without really  knowing where we stand. and the fact that u don't want 2 move in with her shows that she's completely oblivious 2 the real relationship but n a fantasy world about the kind of relationship she wishes you two had. i don't want 2 b the bearer of bad news but baby gyrl has issues. and u sound like u already know it. but having compassion, u'r not doing what u gotta do. but check this out, homeslice, the love u feel for her will turn 2 pity if u stick around too long. u'll b with her cuz u feel sorry 4 her not cuz u love her. now, mind u, all is not lost. she's not totally messed up as a person. u have 2 tell her as openly and honestly as possible how u feel about what she's presenting to you. reassure her a lot. make her feel safe. and b patient with her cuz she won't back up immediately. she'll probably get suspicious. and possibly hurt. but don't let that hurt slow u down it's not the end. when me and my gyrl discussed moving n together, i told her i didn't want an apartment, i wanted 2 buy a house. she surprised me by bursting out into tears. i was shocked. she fought me and became angry. i didn't understand why. well it turns out that it would take a while 2 get a home. especially with her financial situation (don't tell her i told u that LOL). so she took my wanting a house as a way of stalling or backin out of the relationship. well my credit was decent,  i had a great job and getting a house was easier and quicker than she thought. but reassuring her that i had bigger plans for us took a minute. and she's so grateful 2 me now. she loves our house and our life. cuz Holla ain't about half steppin. so tell your gyrl that it's for the best. that u wanna make sure that y'all have the best possible relationship and that's why taking it slower is necessary and be prepared 4 some resistance.