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Bathing girls w/ boys?(55)

Discussion started on  05/07/2008 10:23:34 PM  by  alwilliams06
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Under a certain age, sure why, not but by the time they start pointing and saying "what's that" it may be time for them to bathe alone.

It is not about saving time by the way, it is about their psycho sexual development.

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I agree with the previous poster.  Its OK up until a certain age.  After that maybe bathe the boys together and then your daughter.  I have a 4 year old and to be honest I hate bending over the tub EVERY night to bathe him...my back is killing me LOL! ... plus when I get him form work its 6pm and I dont have much time to get everything I need done before bed time. I am teaching him to bathe him self and then I will come in and bathe him one more time to make sure that he didnt miss a spot.  Good Luck!!

 

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America is really hung up on nudity and sexuality that makes things harder than they have to be.

In Japan and other countries grown men bathe with their kids to save time and water (plus its culturally accepted) so I see no problem with all your kids bathing together, nude is natural and if you dont make a big deal of it, the kids won't either!

Yes but we don't live in Europe or Japan. It is not culturally acceptable here and in fact it is considered deplorable.

Grown men bathing with their children in this country in this day and age need to be arrested. I would rather error on the side of caution then have Papi(or mami) with all his dangling parts taking a bath with his daughter or son, but you do you and your father.

Call me hung up but I would rather be overly protective of my child then pretend children don't get molested & act like nothing is a big deal.

Oh by the way most incest occurs between siblings, not parent and child.

Dejar mi hijo en El Salvador es como dejar una parte grande de mi corazon.

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American Media has everyone thinking like perverts.  thats why innocent acts like bathing a daughter or son by a man is scrutinized.  Its getting to the point wher if an unshave man is holding a kids hand, folks will call the police.  something like taht happened this past week.


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Did that happened to you personally? It's too bad we have to be that way in America though; so afraid of pediphiles and child abusers that no one is exempt from being a suspect.

Grown men bathing with their children in this country in this day and age need to be arrested.



I think that sometimes it is up to the parents and what works for them.  I used to bathe with my boys when they were younger and I am no where near a perv nor do I need to be in jail.  I wouldn't dream of touching my kids in an inappropriate way!!!

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American Media has everyone thinking like perverts.  thats why innocent acts like bathing a daughter or son by a man is scrutinized.  Its getting to the point wher if an unshave man is holding a kids hand, folks will call the police.  something like taht happened this past week.



I agree with you I am no perv and I used to bathe with my boys sometimes when I got home from the gym and wanted to soak in the tub.  I got  them in and out and I finished soaking.

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Hi, OK three kids under 6 and 2 yrs apart. The boys are prob ok bathing together but def not the girl. Children are curious and poking at siblings body parts that are different is not appropropriate bath time play. It is time consuming but then you knew it would be when you had kids so close in age. And, while I sympathize it isn't about you but about the kids development. I have a 2 1/2 year old and I wouldn't bathe with him now because he is wayyy too curious. How does your wife feel about this? Would she be comfortable with you sticking all the kids in a bathtub together?

 Even though they are kids and they aren't thinking of preversion, this is the time when youshould be teaching them about how to protect and value their bodies and how no one has the right to touch them in their private places. Squeezing 3 kids together in one bath tub to share their communal dirt is just NOT the way to go here. Sorry.

 I wouldn't dream of touching my kids in an inappropriate way!!!

You would not but how many sickos do. How many use this slippery slope to indulge in behavior that is damaging to their children. It is one thing for the same gender parent to allow their child to see them nude but to bathe with them or to act like boys and girls all in the tub together may not be borderline inappropriate is a whole different story.

Lets respect our children's boundaries. It is so easy for some adults to violate them and once you cross that line there is no going back.

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HELL NO.  Girls are different from boys.  Bathe the little girl seperate. 










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Seems to me this would be a question you need to discuss with your wife.  Or did she already tell you that she didn't want her daughter being bathed infront of her father and two brothers and you're trying to get a second opinion from anonymous people over the internet? The fact is, if your wife has a problem with it, then she needs to bathe the girl herself either before or after she gets off work.  And you're a grown axx man, why can't you bathe each kid alone? Mothers do it all the time you can't be that tired.  How long could it take to run a few inches of water and rinse out the tub?  Or let them stand under the running faucet, wet them, soap them down and rinse them off.   I'm guessing the 6-year-old has been out playing at school and is likely dirtier than the younger two. Frankly I'd bathe them separately in clean water, you don't know what each of them has been in and are you using the same towel?  Questions.....

How old are the children?  At Six the eldest needs to be learning to bath his or herself.  When I was six my mother would put a smaller tub in the tub and I'd bathe myself and she'd dry me off.  One things for sure a kid in elementary school doesn't need to be seeing the opposite sex without clothes on, baby sister/brother or not.  When a kid gets in school they need to be well on their way to bathing themselves.

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What happened Sharon? Why is this thread at the top of parenting when no one has added to in days.

Dejar mi hijo en El Salvador es como dejar una parte grande de mi corazon.

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Since Sharon is married to Dave and I'm not married, then I guess you'd have to ask her....Or maybe BV.....Maybe you can call Sharon I don't think Dave's number is unlisted.  

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