Thank you very much.

I think his videos hurt his credibility in raising awareness for the disease. It's kind of like.. would you go to a benefit for AIDS given by 2 Live Crew?? How much are we really going to listen and you are sitting there degrading women that look like your mama the very next day? Some of the same reasons I don't rush home to watch videos like I used to.. you get tired of seeing the same thing "over and over again"..LOL

And yep... Spelman just wanted to "TALK" to him about it and he declined...and THAT is where it blew up.

I guess that's relative to which issue you find most important.  I mean this man knew his sister was just as sick when he was degrading people.  Was he thinking about this when he was too big of a man to apologize?  Sorry I don't agree that the sisters were in the wrong.

You might not be aware but Nelly isn't the only person raising awareness on bone marrow.

My heart goes out to Nelly and his family!

I know this is off the subject, but is that your husband in the crop picture with you? Y’all make a wonderful duo!

Eszum

At least he has exerted some effort to raise awareness. Do you know how many rappers and entertainers who stand for nothing past making millions of dollars?  I ,also agree that women are exploited in these videos daily. To really make a difference, why not find these women who let themselves be exploited and build up their self-esteem and self-confidence so they will know  their self-respect means more than any amount of money?

We need to stop blaming entertainers for exploiting women who are happy about being exploited. Adults need to be responsible for their own actions, not the actions of others.

No one is "blaming" Nelly for anything.. Spelman wanted "dialouge"...This is not the first time that Spelman has had issues with people making requests. Back in 1989 I did my  Work Study in Publications and Public relations and believe me, students and/or faculty had issues with a number of different things that were requested and didn't make the papers...

I think if a bunch of video hoes wanted to do a "fashion show"  on Spelman's campus to raise money and gifts for "Toys for Tots" they would get the same reception.

For those who think Spelman is on a "high horse"....So, what...You have no idea what grants through NIH and other health initiatives through the National Medical Association (that is the BLACK ONE) are being implemented across all  HBCU campuses..

Just like people were being maimed and disabled "before" Chris Reeves became hurt and before Micheal J. Fox was stricken with Parkinsons, there will be those organizations that have been fighting for YEARS to overcome these types of maladies. There have been a number of fouundations started in the name of a "celebrity" that fold after a few years when that celebrity is no longer popular or involved in any meaningful way. That is why it is important to support  longstanding organizations like the RED CROSS....

It's as unfair to put the onus on these colleges as it is to put it on Nelly for the self-esteem of black girls. I think everyone here knows that the Spelman girls could have had a better, more productive discussion if they looked at the person sitting next to them in class before the guy on stage or tv, because it starts there.  Nelly wasn't the first and he won't be the last, especially if young women continue to participate. If you've really got a problem with what the man is doing then don't support it. Don't show up for the casting calls for video girls, despite the good money. Don't dance when the song comes on in the club, despite the catchy beat. Don't go to the concert when it comes thru your town, despite the great show.  But DO take responsibility for your own actions, because regardless of the media inundation, the choice is ultimaltely yours. 

I'm not a child, I'm a grown man, and not a Nelly fan -- but I liked the Tip Drill video.  But would I let my child watch it? Hell no! And if they did, it's my fault, because it's my responsibility to be THEIR sensor -- not Nelly's.

But may the man's sister rest in peace, if she has indeed passed on. 

I don't care who raises awareness and what organization folds after a couple of years, at least the initial effort was there. Which is something a lot of us can't say.

Well, we will have to just disagree. I do care who brings awareness. There were Klan and Neo-Nazis and other organizations expressing their support of  birth control for Black people.

Show me a college were EVERYBODY is the same and thinks the same and acts the same.??????

People who are informed and are committed to issues aren't swayed by someone just because they are a "celebrity"...actually, when a celebrity does take it upon himself to  start a foundation, it takes  MONEY AWAY from the more established orgranizations who get the money, resources and research to the people and researchers who need it...

Again, we disagree......I am not  misguided...I am informed as I have been involved with Public Health for over 10 years...I respect you opinion, it is just not mine.

Show me a college were EVERYBODY is the same and thinks the same and acts the same.??????

That is virtually impossible dear, which helps reiterate my point once again. If Spelman were to counsel the very students who are participating in this derogatory crap. Then, I would applaud them. If they are in school, it shows that they are trying to have a better life. So, why not help redirect them instead of  jumping on someone who has already arrived. It doesn't help. I call this the degree syndrome. A lot of people who have degrees or are pursuing one tend to think their own "ish" don't stank.

On question: What are you doing to help your community??

"People who live in glass houses, shouldn't throw stones or however it goes"

^5 Spelman is full of these types of women. Just go to one of the popular strip clubs in Atlanta or pick up one of the escort catalogs.I guarantee they are full of lost college students who feel they have no other choice. Why don't they start an awareness on their own campus first to discuss what is and is not acceptable among young black women instead of sweeping their indiscretions under the rug?