My wife and I have been married for 14 years, and have been together since we were 17 years old (1986). Now that we're older she is more into church, God. I have been going more often than usual to learn more myself. But the last three years it seems that we have grown apart. She even mentioned before in an argument that she needs for me to come up to her level, spiritually. I still like to have fun, watch TV, and go to the movies. I have since sold my motorcycle, the one thing I had left that I enjoyed, because she said it brought too much attention from other women. She gets a message from the pastor and runs with it. Sometimes my family can't watch TV or listen to music. She just wants everyone to be still all day and read the word.

What can I do to bring the fun back into my marriage?

My fiancé is planning a bachelor party in Las Vegas, and even though I trust him, I do not want him to go to a strip club. I think they are repulsive and degrading to women. His boys will probably push him into going there, and the thought of it is stressing me out. Help!

My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and we are planning to wed this summer. I am the child of a broken home, and my parents divorced when I was 9. I love my man with all my heart and I want to spend my life with him, but what if it doesn't work out? How do we solve the problems so they don't end in divorce?

Maybe you can help me with my situation because I'm at the point I don't know which way to go. I have been married for 13 years. I just found out that my husband and a friend of mine that I have known for 2 years have been secretly calling and e-mailing each other. They both say nothing happened. My friend sent my husband an instant message that said I miss you and was thinking about you while he was away on a business trip. She doesn't see anything wrong with that. She didn't tell me she sent it, I just happened to see it while helping her with her computer. Confused! Please help!

My boyfriend & I have been dating for 2 years. All his ex girlfriends (4 that I know of) were at least 5'7", thin, small chest/butt, white, average looking faces with nothing unique or super pretty. I am 5'3" size 7, 36DD very curvy, Italian/Persian, totally opposite of what his "taste" is. Sometimes I think he started dating me because he saw that OTHER guys wanted me but that I'm not really what he wants. When we are out he looks at girls that have his ex's type body. I am scared he will eventually leave me, I even went as far as having three-somes with other girls, which was fine with me, but he said he didn't feel right about it so we stopped that.

By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach

Q: My girlfriend rushes through sex, and now I think she is faking her orgasms so that I will hurry up and finish. How can I tell a fake orgasm from the real thing?

I am currently in an interracial relationship, with a loving, honest, and committed man. We have been dating for a year and a half, and in that time I have had to struggle with racial issues that have come from outside and from within. One of the most difficult issues though, has stemmed from my head.

My hair had always been an area of exasperation for me growing up, and since my parents were diplomats with Unicef, we spent much of our time in "third world" countries, where products were not always accessible.

My parents, an interracial couple, have backgrounds as dissimilar as their color. My father hails from a white Jewish family in Pennsylvania and my mother a black Catholic family from a small fishing village in Ghana.

They met while my father was teaching English with the Peace Corps in West Africa. Their union spawned children with medium toned skin and curly hair that would turn blond in the hot African sun.

We were an anomaly in Africa, and people saw us as bofre and bruni, terms used to describe the white man. Even though we stood out, we were more a curiosity to the other children, who would constantly be touching and picking at our heads, sometimes pulling out little strands of curly straw hair as keepsakes. Once a week my father would sit me down with a brush and comb and try to exorcise the tangles. This was a painful ordeal that would last an hour, and by the end I would be in tears.

I came to believe that the hairs on my head were somehow connected to my stomach. Every time he pulled, my stomach would pull, leaving me nauseous. My brothers nicknamed me volcano head because my hair erupted into a giant mass above my head and a lava flow of tears would run down my face.

At the age of 14, I had had enough.

By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach

Q: I need your advice. I am married and have been for 5 years now. My husband cheated on me one year and two months into our marriage. I said that I forgave him, but truly and deeply inside, I didn't. I think about it all the time and it is driving me crazy. We are in the military and he had to report to his duty station three months before I could join him. He said that he felt as though he was losing his family, because we could not all be there with him when he left and that the female started showing him attention. He told me that he was in love with this girl, which I think was infatuation. We are still together, but I'm not in love with him. He knows how I feel, but is trying for me. What should I do? He is a great father and husband, provides well for our family, but I'm not in love with him. I need some advice from an outside angle. Thanks again for all your help.

By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach

Q: My boyfriend and I have been living with each other for 2 years. For several months I had a medical problem and I didn't have any desire to have sex. Now that I'm well, I have my sex drive back, but every time I try to initiate sex, he stops it. I'm feeling lonely and undersexed, and I've noticed other guys hitting on me. Is it ever okay to cheat?