My fiancé is planning a bachelor party in Las Vegas, and even though I trust him, I do not want him to go to a strip club. I think they are repulsive and degrading to women. His boys will probably push him into going there, and the thought of it is stressing me out. Help!
Bachelor parties are a common tradition, and they are a time for men to bond and celebrate moving into a new stage of life. It sounds like you are a woman with values and respect for yourself, and in order to carry that spirit into your marriage, you need to set down some boundaries. Have a candid and honest talk with your fiancé about setting respectful boundaries while on his trip. At this stage in the game you should be able to speak openly with your fiancé about any issues that may arise. Let him know what you think and how you feel about strip clubs, and suggest alternatives to this ritual (i.e. Sky Diving). He can always let his friends know that strip clubs are out, and with a million other fun things to do in Vegas, let him know that you're sure they can celebrate his bachelor party in style.
My husband and I have been married for six months, and recently I caught him in a lie. He said he had to stay at the office to work late, but a friend of mine called me and said she saw him at a bar. When he came home, I made a comment about the late hour, and he said "I work very hard!" Why would he lie to me? How should I confront him about it?
This is your opportunity to tend to the relationship garden before anymore weeds grow. It sounds like there is a communication break down here, and in order to fix that successfully you want to come from a place of love. Sit your husband down and let him know that you have something important to address. Start by telling him the positive things that you love about your relationship, and that you want to maintain that beautiful and healthy connection. Tell him you are concerned because you know that he wasn't at work the whole night, and that you felt he was not being honest with you when he said otherwise. Listen carefully to his explanation, then let him know that he can always tell you anything, and that you love and support him.
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1. I feel the reason her husband had lied to her is because he doesn't know how to communicate with her. the issue can even be her fault. are you hard to talk to, have you lost your sense for fun. he went to a bar! not a big deal, he just want to drink have some him time doesnt want to do the normal routine, which can become danagerous grounds for future cheating if the wife is forcing him to live a routine boring your relattionship.
its a bachelor party let him live i'm pretty sure he has dirty pics hidden from you and doesn't want to let you in to that part of his life because you may have a old lady attitude towards life. just let him live its las vegas what happeneds there doesnt have anything to do with you.
Tracey at 11:08AM on Jun 12th 2008