By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach
Q: How common is the female orgasm, and how can I help my girlfriend to achieve it?
A: The female orgasm is not uncommon and can be reached by anyone. For women climax is both a physical and emotional release. One way to reach orgasm is to let go of control and let your mind and body feel the sensations and emotions that come with climax. The best method to help your girlfriend to reach orgasm is to create a comfortable and romantic environment, and to take things slow. First you want to get her aroused by kissing, touching, and hugging. The key to the female orgasm is the clitoris, the bulb on the exterior of the vagina. The clitoris, like the penis, has a concentration of nerve endings which are the key to reaching climax. This highly sensitive area must be stimulated if she is going to reach orgasm. Ask her how she likes to be touched. Let her be the boss of your sex sessions, and pay close attention to how she stimulates herself. Ask her what she wants you to do to her, and which sexual positions or caresses feel the best for her. Paying close attention to your partner and reading her responses to your touch will allow you to pleasure her in new ways, and will deepen the connection between you.
Q: I am 19 years old. I know I may be young but everyone needs love. I just feel that it is impossible for me to find love. All I have been running into are jerks. I think maybe I fall too fast for the game, and I get played. But I believe that I am a nice person with a great personality. I'm lonely and lost. I just want to share part of me with someone who is willing to do the same, but I am discouraged that I will never find that. Can you help me?
A: Everyone should have love in their life, but you need to be aware of when you are coming from a place of need or lack. When you approach the world with this great need, you ignore the warning signs and red flags that may appear along the way, and simply take what ever you can get in order to fill that need. This is what drives people to fall into relationships that do not work for them, and something is telling me that you may not ready to be in a relationship. Take the time now to learn who you are, and what you want from a relationship. Be specific about what kind of partner will work best with you and for you. What are the nagging needs that you are trying to fill with the love of someone else? This is the time to figure out how to fill those needs by looking within you, not outside of yourself. You must first know yourself and love yourself, so you can decide who you want to give your love to, and so you can see who is ready to love you.
Rebecca Brody is currently a Life Empowerment coach in New York City. Her area of expertise is in relationship coaching. She is a graduate of Vassar and Ipec, and has trained with the Relationship Coaching Institute. She is ICF certified, and has been studying social interaction, relationships and coupling for over a decade. To work with Coach Brody contact Brody@theluvcoach.com, or go to www.theluvcoach.com.
Sexy Lingerie for Love
- Sexy Lingerie for Love
The Sexpot
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1. The Female Orgasm? How did women get their own version of pleasure? Sure our parts are different, but the game is the same. Listen to any Old school record and it will tell you how to do it. Turn off the lights all night long. Take you time until you reach a higher ground. Personally, I think an orgasm is about communication and unselfishness. Miss Jackson has it right. What have you done for me lately? You both bring something special to the Humpty dance. Oh I went there, without saying it. You've got to understand the words.
Cecil Jones at 10:15PM on Apr 17th 2008