By Rebecca Brody, Certified Empowerment Coach
A guy that I have been dating claims that he can't get hard with a condom. What is a polite way to say that I don't have sex without a condom?
When a man tells you that he does not want to use a condom, the message he is sending you is that he does not value his own life, and he certainly does not value yours. We live in an era where STD's are easily spread, but we have the means to protect ourselves. If you care about yourself, you will not put yourself at risk. The best answer is to tell your man that you only have sex with a condom, because you value yourself and you value him, and you want both of you to live a long and healthy life.
When do guys expect girls to start paying for a dinner?
I believe that women and men are equal partners in a relationship, so while you are still in the dating stage the person who did the asking should do the paying. If he asked you to dinner, then he should pay, but if you asked him, then you should pay.
My new boyfriend is planning to get a job at a place where my old boyfriend works. How do I tell him that my ex works there, and should I ask him not to work there? I want to support his decision to take the job, but I'm afraid of what might happen when they meet.
Although this is an uncomfortable situation to be in, you cannot ask your boyfriend to sacrifice his means of living. Be honest with your boyfriend, so that he can prepare himself for the situation ahead. You want to send the message that you have successfully moved on from your last relationship, and that your commitment to your current relationship is what is most important to you now. You can ask your boyfriend to keep his interaction with your ex professional, but in the end it is up to him to decide their working relationship. Let your boyfriend know that you trust him to do what is best for both you and him, and that your relationship with each other is all that really matters.
Rebecca Brody is currently a Life Empowerment coach in New York City. Her area of expertise is in relationship coaching. She is a graduate of Vassar and Ipec, and has trained with the Relationship Coaching Institute. She is ICF certified, and has been studying social interaction, relationships and coupling for over a decade. To work with Coach Brody contact Brody@theluvcoach.com, or go to www.theluvcoach.com
1. It is interesting about your situation, I see a red flag flying high. It could be that your friend may already have a STD. If so, he should have the common decency to use every precaution to protect you, I could be wrong but something isn't right about it.
Floyd at 7:26PM on Mar 14th 2008